Praise and honor the man He gave me

 When I said "yes" to marrying my now husband, I entered into an engagement that said I would, with every intention, seek to be one with him.  The engagement period is a practice of that union.  We began to make plans for our union: where we would live, what his job would be and what my role would be, how many children we might have, what we felt like God was calling us to individually and what it would  look like for us to support each other.  I would look to him for direction, no longer looking to my own father, but submitting myself to God and to my future husband.  If much conflict ensued, it would then be appropriate to break off the engagement.  After that it is in complete submission to God that I completely submit to my husband.  If there is a question of direction, I ask for clarity from my husband and a peace and motivation from God to honor my husband's choice and continue to live in my lane.  What He has called me to I must continue to focus on: being an amazing wife, mother, and the kingdom mission He puts before me.  

When my dad gave me in marriage, he passed on the torch of authority and my responsibility to honor him to my new head.  I am to ask my husband what he believes, thinks, wants, and dreams, and let him be my compass.  Yes, my dad may be gifted in many worldly things, yet I do not seek him over my husband to "fix" my or our lives.  If my husband so chooses to seek his or another man's advice, I support him in that.  Otherwise I can educate myself to be his helpmeet: be that by learning plumbing or trading or simply to praise him for everything we already have and who he is rather than looking for more.

What about later questioning that this was truly the man God gave me, especially if my husband falls away from the Lord?  In this we go back to "in this way I would win my husband over", both in that he would still honor me, and that he would be won back to Christ.  What if God judges me for causing my husband to stumble because I became a distraction, a discouragement to him, because I did not trust and submit to God and then my husband?  He saw Adam, and that it was not good that he was alone, when I step back and hold back my encouragement, my "help" I am dishonoring the very reason God created me.

Lord, help me to be that amazing helpmeet you created me to be!

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