Becoming his

 We're entering into exciting adventure mode.  I get nervous and sometimes irritable, but mostly focused and my brain starts racing to all the readiness, preparedness that needs to happen.  In the last 7 years this has usually been a new child entering our home and considering all the adjustments.  This time it is moving our family to a new home.  Our family is signing on our number 6 in less than a week!  So much excitement.  But most of all, it's that I get to do all of this with my wonderful husband, this is what we felt called to do, and now we have arrived, and yet there's life ahead.  What a journey, and in these last months how much Debi, through God's word has caught me up.  If you haven't read and studied with her book, "Helpmeet", I can't recommend it enough.  I hope that my book, devotions, would change lives as well, that God can reach more through it. As I near the end of her book, I feel my book coming.  Lord, launch it on many platforms!

Today we're looking at what it means to be "obedient to their own husbands." Titus 2:4-5.  To start, it's a focus that we as women need to have.  It goes back to Genesis 3:16, "thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee."  It's a complete trust that starts with action, not earning.  God wired us to place our full attention and interest upon our one and only husband, and follow his lead.  I say follow his lead, because we are not otherwise wanderers who have no direction, but when he says move, we are ready.  When I said yes to marrying Chris, a former marine, I agreed to "siempre gumby"; always flexible to you, babe! 

What does that mean?  God has given each of us a mission, even within the marriage, my mission doesn't look exactly the same as Chris's.  But because we are married, there is a coming together in our mission, that means I fit to him.  We become "one".  Just as when we're lying in bed, I find that perfect fit and we fall asleep, in harmony, my life seeks to find that fit.  We function often independently.  I am to cheer him on, he supports what God's put on my heart, and we do family and life together.  Someday I'm believing I'll be speaking to many women.  He won't likely be much involved in that.  He ministers often with other men (and more so since I've learned to "let him"), I am ready with a meal or whatever support he needs to be able to.  I am learning to be fair in my judgement of what I can handle, and recognize that I need to adjust my load when it means I'm managing all day, or for days, the household and all the kids.  If it means we spend more time outside so the house doesn't get trashed, I find things we can do together.  If it means a simpler meal, kids go to bed a little earlier, or I come up with a creative family project, I know that I am capable. I don't use it as an opportunity to indulge or eat out, but rather to show the kids there's a consistency in my parenting and in our family, and that we honor Chris. In our honoring my husband and their father we are honoring Christ.