The greatest Executive Assistant

 Organizing and making things happen has been a gift of mine for most of my life.  Confrontation, not a problem, though I might get intimidated.  I appreciate a mentor, someone to look up to and aspire to, as well as a strong leader- usually a man.  I like to please, and serving is usually a part of that.  Somehow this combination got really skewed in my marriage.  I came to resent all of my "jobs", and really lacked a mentor.  And then I found the book "Created to be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl.  It is a pearl of a book.  Harshly coaching me as those I remember who made me the greatest athlete; and encouraging me that I have what it takes in me because the creator did wire me for this.  I am so thankful for this book- though I sometimes want to throw it against the wall.  Or at my husband....  Both not the right answer!  Going for a walk and praying has been rewarding, however!

Consider this:  God set up a chain of command, first in heaven and then again here on earth.  When you do not honor that command you dishonor God, and apart from repentance you can expect to reap the sure consequences. 1 Cor 11:3, "The head of every man is Christ (whom he must answer to); and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."  God will judge me for how I answer to/ honor Chris.  I am challenged: Don't question, attack, or dishonor him- when I do I am questioning God's chain of command and attempting to break it.  

Instead, I will start thinking and acting as if my hubby is the head of the company and I am his greatest Executive Assistant.  So great, in fact, that he needs no one else and is utterly delighted in me.  Every victory for him, he is quick to turn to celebrate with me, acknowledging the one who made it possible.  Sounds good, great in fact, convincing enough that I could resolve to respond with joy to every opportunity to meet his needs and keep the company running.  And oh, to celebrate!  Embrace those victories with him and congratulate him- I mean, why not?  I would have done it for that athlete I was cheering on the sidelines, he needs me to be his biggest and most committed fan.  And I want him to always look for me on the sideline- the most beautiful cheerleader in his eyes.

Chris's job has been draining for him- what can I do to help him find the energy to see it in a different way?  He is now in training for a whole new position, something I am excited to see him get in to.  He wants me on the journey, has been sharing all the training with me.  Today I encouraged him to go strong, and not let me slow him down.  Instead, let me know how I can help him progress, and I will continue to do my studying in the time I can, while clearing space for him when he can.  God will take care of the details, and truly, it is my passion to care for the kids and the house.  I cannot do it all, we have agreed on that, as he cannot either, but together, we can make amazing things happen.  God created us for this!